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How To Be More Interesting

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How To Be An Interesting Person

Dale Carnegie said, “The royal road to a person's heart is to talk about the things he or she treasures most. If we talk to people about what they are interested in, they will feel valued and value us in return.”  So maybe getting interested in other people as a way to becoming a more interesting person isn’t that far-fetched.  In fact, it might be the best advice that you receive all year.

3 Ways to Become a More Interesting Person by talking in terms of the other person's interests. 

It’s simple math, if most people are busy talking about themselves, you’ll be one of the few who can get interested in engaged in others. In turn will help to make you more interesting as well as someone who has heard and seen others perspectives.  Armed with that curiosity, it will open more doors, present more opportunities, and allow you to make more connections with others. There is a big difference between honest sincere appreciation and flattery. Ensure that there is never any confusion between real appreciation and a hollow or meaningless comment. The more specific you can be in your appreciation, the better. It’s not enough to just say, “good job,” rather you should be specific in what you appreciate about their good work. To help you identify specific items for praise, we’ve created a few tought starters for you.

  • Active Listening – It all starts with showing you are engaged.  By using both verbal and non-verbal queues, you can show the other person that you are interested and enthusiastic to hear what they have to say.  This will build the confidence of someone who isn’t use to sharing and draw out details that a less engaged listener would never hear.
  • Conversation Topics – There are literally an infinite amount of things to talk about in the world, yet sometimes, we get in situations and we have nothing to say.  Don’t get stuck in those situations, come to the conversation with a few ideas in your back pocket.  Focus on the individual, ask questions about where they live, where they work, (if appropriate) their family, or their hobbies.  Everyone is an expert on themselves!
  • Questions  –  It’s not what you ask, it’s how you ask.  Stay away from yes or no questions, rather ask questions that are open ended, get the other person doing a great deal of the talking. 

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